There are many reasons people choose to end their marriage, from abuse or infidelity, to growing apart and wanting different things. If you are headed toward telling your spouse you want a divorce, but are not sure if it is the right decision, there are a few signs you can look for. While it is up to you to decide if this is the right option for you, the following signs might sound familiar.
You Are No Longer Threatening Divorce
It is not unusual to be in the middle of a fight with your spouse and threaten divorce, however this type of behavior is usually said out of anger or frustration. Some spouses also threaten divorce so that they will be taken more seriously in the marriage, to get control or power over their spouse, or hoping it will be a wake-up call. Regardless of its effects, threatening divorce is not the same thing as wanting one. In fact, many people who really want one, don't threaten it every time they are angry. They wait until they can have a calm discussion about it.
You Have Already Looked Into Divorce Attorneys
This is a big step and one that should not be taken lightly. If you have already begun researching divorce and looking into attorneys who could handle your divorce, you are probably ready for it. This is a sign that you are ready to move on with your life, including handling the legal ramifications of your decision to end your marriage.
You Are Not Acting Based on Emotions
If your behavior toward your spouse, or your feelings for them, are no more fueled by your emotional state but by what you want for yourself, that is a sign that you are not acting based on your emotions. A good way to determine this is to ask yourself what you want or don't want when you are in a good mood with no stress and you and your spouse are getting along. Do you still want that divorce? If so, it might be time to consider it.
You Want Control of Your Life
A common reason people choose to get divorced is because they want control over their own life and they no longer feel they have that control. You may have tried discussing this with your spouse, and they don't agree or they don't see it your way. If you have gotten to the point where you just want out and want control over your own life, it is another sign you may be ready for divorce.
If you decide that you are ready to move forward with divorce, contact Blumenauer Hackworth or a similar firm.